What a great week! Being out west with my farmer really put our future relationship into focus for me. I got back from Iowa late Monday night and have just now had a chance to catch up. Getting back to real life is hard! My long drive gave me a lot of time to think about long distance relationships and being content with our current situation. If you’re still reading by this point, my ramblings are below 🙂
The drive out was pretty uneventful besides some (okay, a lot) of rain. But I’m always happy about an uneventful drive! When I arrived it was time to get down to business with house stuff, seeing friends and spending some normal time with my farmer. Normal time with him is something I have been needing! Last week was full of that “normal” time. It didn’t feel like a vacation, it just felt like I was home and that’s exactly what we both wanted.
Long Distance Relationships
During my long drives I had some time to reflect about our relationship. It’s crazy to think that I’ll be moving in just one month! Things can really creep up on you even when they seem so far out. The saying “the days are long, but the years are short” is so true. It seems like a day or week might drag by but before you know it, a month has come and gone.
Being in a long distance relationship has its benefits but sometimes those are hard to focus on. Most days you just wish that you could hug each other or hold their hand. All you want to do is snuggle up together on the couch or greet them when they come in the door. The thought of staying in on Saturday night for date night is exciting! It’s missing the little things that make you anxious and lose focus on other important aspects of the relationship.
A Different Set of Challenges
Thinking that way can cause a funk of sorts. I feel that I sometimes focus too much on what I am missing out on. Like a little kid not wanting to take a nap, there are too many things that we might miss if we close our eyes! Those little things that may or may not even be can torture us if we let them. So many things today get romanticized and viewed through rose-colored glasses. Because I am not experiencing it at the moment, I build up the situation in my head. I might miss out on something simply because I’m not close by!
But I think the key for most relationships (I am not an expert by any means, so take this as you will) is being grateful and content with what you have at that moment. Now I don’t mean this as an excuse for complacency, our life and experiences should always be treasured as the wonderful gift they are. We should always strive to improve and be the best stewards of what we have been given.
The main focus should be on all the wonderful things happening at that moment in life. If I am always thinking about the things I could be missing, then I’ll take for granted here and now; the sweet texts I get every morning or the videos of what he’s working on during the day. It’s being grateful for the little things that keep the butterflies in a relationship (one way at least 🙂 ).
I think that this mindset can transfer to any aspect of life and help improve it. If your house isn’t up to par with the Jones’s, be grateful you have a roof over your head. Maybe your car is falling apart, but try to remember it gets you to where you need to go. Sometimes your family life is less than ideal, go ahead and try your best to love them anyway. This isn’t me saying that everyone should just put up with any situation regardless of how bad it is. Be grateful, but always but forth your best effort.
There must be a perfect equilibrium of increased effort and contentedness. I think that a big part of how happy we are in life is where and when we find that equilibrium. I hope and pray that I find it sooner rather than later. But my gut is telling me that I’m well on my way to getting there!
But I digress…
Besides the heavy stuff, my trip was so much fun! And fun as in I got to do exactly what I wanted; spend time with my amazing farmer, see some friends I haven’t visited in a long while, and start getting my life set up in Iowa. It felt so much like home! I got to help out a little on the farm watching fences for new cattle and opening gates for bedding. They didn’t tell me not to come back so I must have done an okay job! I hope you like the pictures of the happy cattle!
My farmer did lots of explaining about farm stuff and how their yearly plan usually works, so I’ll have to do another update on that soon. We also have a new project that got delivered out there last week! We are going to fix up an old tractor of my dad’s when we have a few free moments (ha!). I’m so excited about that and I can’t wait to get started.
I still have lots of grown up details to figure out, like getting my own insurance and finding a job. But I’m trying to put away that anxiety and practice what I preach (or blog): to be content just where I am in life. God has a plan for me so I don’t need to worry about it. I will try my best and know that what is meant to be for me will be.
That really takes a lot of pressure off!